Fiancé Embarrassed By His Short Partner, Won't Let Her Take Off Her Shoes For Fear of Someone Realizing

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    Font - Y r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/wtfthesehighheels4 5 hours ago 3 AITA for embarrasaing my fiancè and taking my heels off at our engagement party? My fiance (m31) and I (f26) got engaged several days ago. This is relevant, he's tall and I'm in the 5's category, pretty small compared to him and his family. He asked that I wear high heels at our engagement party since there was going to be photos. Although I wasn't comfortable (not a fan either) with high heels, I decided to wear them just f
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    Font - I told my fiance again that I was in so much pain but he said "suck it up, it's almost over". I had enough of it, I took my heels off and let my feet and legs cool off. He and his mom looked at me in utter confusion. Several of his family and guests saw me barefoot as well. He freaked out asking what I was doing. his mom asked that I put my heels on but I said my feet were done and I couldn't do it anymore. my fiance begged me but I stood there til it was over like he wanted. The minute I
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    Font - I had no intentions of embarrassing him and I do feel I should've sucked it up. but I think that he wasn't truthful about how long I was expected to stand. Aita? ETA he doesn't usually care if I wear high heels, and said I should start considering wearing them from now on out because most women wear heels at big occasions like weddings and engagement parties.
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    Font - gayforaliens170 Asshole Aficionado [11] ago NTA. Please don't marry this man. That is some serious controlling behavior. 18.6k Share •.. Swimming-Item8891 · 5 hr. ago Partassipant [3] I was just typing this. 2.9k Share ... DoctorDrunkDriver · 3 hr. ago I used to behave the same way back when I was a drunkard - and only when sober would I realize how terribly I had behaved towards my wife. I do not know how she tolerated my behavior for so long. She was not the one that deserved to die so
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    Font - AModel30wner · 5 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [10] Honestly this is way bigger of a problem than just what happened at the party. NTA, and probably worth rethinking an engagement with a man who has so little concern for your well-being that he will give you the silent treatment for wanting to not be in pain. 7.8k Share •.. FoldNtheCheese · 5 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Precisely. High heels are not comfortable shoes. Wearing them for extended periods of time can cause blisters, leg pain, etc.
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    Font - cjack68 · 5 hr. ago 22 S Asshole Aficionado [14] So, let's just ring this up, shall we? • Your fiancee is so comfortable with your height, he "freaks" if you're seen in public at your natural height. • Your fiancee thinks he's been embarrassed in front of his family and friends if you take your shoes off • Your fiancee thinks that the fact that his mom asked is more important than the fact that you are in pain. • Your fiancee describes you in terms like "with a height like yours", as if y
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    Font - 2 fakingandnotmaki & 6 More Partassipant [1] 4 hr. ago As a short Asian girl I've found that the best way to make myself taller is to get rid of everyone who ever made me feel small| And this is coming from someone who does enjoy wearing heels 3.6k Share •.. wtfthesehighheels4 OP · 3 hr. ago Asian here too. exactly! the comments are endless even from people I barely know but I try not to get too worked hi there up because of them. 1.0k Share •..
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    Font - Dounesky · 5 hr. ago Wtf??? NTA Think twice before marrying this man. He freaked out on you for flipping shoes. He does not dictate what you wear and you shouldn't take this from him. His mom is just as bad. This is a spotlight on how your marriage is going to be. He seems just a tad ? king controlling... Run, OP, run. 1.7k Share
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    Font - ConferenceDece edited 22 min. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] ago Lol what So you want to marry a guy... That doesn't like you being short.. Wants you to HURT yourself to suit his shallow preferences... And doesn't give a single ounce of shit about your pain cause he cares more about image... Then he has a tantrum, berates you, and turns off his phone and gives you the silent treatment. Like a child. Mhm. Yeah. Makes sense. NTA but OP, what is you doin'? Edit Thanks for the awards 1.2k Share •
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    Font - CaimansGalore · 4 hr. ago · edited 4 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA. Your fiancé is obsessed with appearances. This is a huge warning bell for what's to come in your marriage. Also, your MIL is going to make planning the wedding a living hell. And if you have kids? Buckle up. Don't say you weren't warned. ETA: I encourage you to reflect on the fact that you had to ask permission from your fiancé and his mommy to sit down. A simple "excuse me for a moment" is all that is required by polite s
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    Font - aspertame_blood · 5 hr. ago NTA. This is your future. Do you want a husband who puts his concern of "what will people think?" (aka a non-problem) above your physical discomfort? If the answer is no then you can't marry him in good faith. When people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. 841 Share •.. wtfthesehighheels4 OP · 4 hr. ago no I definitely don't want that. He's normally okay with me wearing flat shoes but said for big ocassions I should consider wearing high heels. He said that i

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